Wisdom from a Girl Dad Veteran (ft. Nathaniel Noble Jr)

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
This is dedicated to my two daughters. They're just trying to give you advice on life, trying to bring you up the way of Christ. Right.

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Matthew Krekeler
Welcome to Girl Dad Nation In this episode, I welcome Nathaniel Noble Jr. I've got Nathaniel Noble Jr with me on the podcast for Girl Dad Nation, and we were talking before this episode just about how you've been blessed to be surrounded by women in your life. So, yeah, thank you so much for reaching out to me. You emailed me a while ago, but I'm happy to finally be able to sit down with you and learn from your wisdom.

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Matthew Krekeler
So, yeah, tell me a little bit about yourself. Yeah. Your family and all of that.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Okay. Nathaniel Noble Jr. Name at the my father, which is a pillar in my life. This got started. M.S. from a marriage, you know, then I'm from a broken home. And then I went back with my father. My teenage years, which is structured me as manhood and gave me all my work that they can solid, you know, man stuff.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Then I went off in the Air Force right out of high school, got married to my first wife, and had two lovely daughters, Courtney and Brittany, and then a couple of years that went awry. And then I remarried to my current wife, Dorothy, and she brought me three stepdaughters. And then eventually some of those kids had some kids who had some kids.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So I got all these granddaughters and a couple of great granddaughters and nieces. And so as women everywhere, I got a goddaughter. I even have a girl dog. So I'm surrounded with women. So, you know, it's got you know, it's easy to be a man when you're surrounded by women.

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Matthew Krekeler
So, yeah, my three daughters. But yeah, just having them around, it's a blessing. So and you're now a granddad too, which is amazing.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I'm a great granddad.

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Matthew Krekeler
Great granddad. Wow.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. I married a cougar the second time around, so some of the grandkids grow old enough to have kids.

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Matthew Krekeler
Wow.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. So it's wonderful. I have some grandsons, too, but I'm saying it's like, I think the girls outnumber them and what else?

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Matthew Krekeler
That's how it is with my family.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I'm a podcaster, truck driver by trade. What else?

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Matthew Krekeler
Entrepreneur and music artist.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. Oh, yeah. I produce music. I haven't did it in a while, but I got a catalog over the last 23 years of music. My music name is Nate Smooth as some of the E. Yeah. So some of my music got me banned on online, but. And so, you know, truth hurts. I can't stop the truth. It was here before me.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I was just explaining it through song. Other than that, yeah, I have a podcast and the way, you know, we're doing your podcast comes out every Sunday at noon Pacific and you can find that anywhere. You know where we can find podcasts. And if the people that can't find a podcast, you can just go to this noble podcast.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
XCOM that's a line yet with I think I got I'm on season 290 something episode and I think 97 episodes. So yeah, I think I'm officially a podcast.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. And you've got the perfect voice for podcast. Nate Smooth to the name. Well, yeah, that's why he's using that too and stuff. So yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
You have this voice and yeah, it's crazy because when I cranked up the mic, I'm like, I didn't know I had a radio voice. Yeah, my wife's. They hate us two. And you need to take someone to be such a voice. That's kind of too provocative. I'm like, eh, but it sounds good. I'm what? Radio voice?

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. Oh, it's great. And you talk about life on your podcast. You have a bunch of different people on the show. I listened to an episode recently. I think you had your niece on the show and you were talking about how she didn't say her first word until she was like five years old. But yeah, then she came into her voice and you talk about kind of overcoming those obstacles.

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Matthew Krekeler
Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do. So, you.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Know, she got more degrees than me.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, she's a teacher and stuff like that. Yeah. So, yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So that's amazing. You know, this is I like to see the transformation from from, you know, the struggle. It's like a, it's like a, I guess, a cocoon before it turns into a butterfly, you know, and a coin is going to break out and then it's going to stretch stretches, ring wings out. And then it was like, okay, over.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Now I'm just kind of floating around living my life. Yeah. Like my podcast is pretty much like, you know, we talk about life because it happens to everyone. So all walks of life have a story and then I have them leave from life. And I get so, you know, personal for, you know, for sure help inspire people. We all go through something.

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Matthew Krekeler
So yeah, I love this podcast because I get to talk to other dads and I'm kind of a young new dad. So my oldest is only four. But hearing other people's life experience and just all the joys and trials along the way, it's it's really great to hear.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. It's is definitely an experience to have, you know, the being a father and know this girl. I wanted a boy but I, I seen a second girl and I'm time. Yeah. Because, like, I got a lot of sisters too, you know, I think I got I mean, it's just like God, five sisters.

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Matthew Krekeler
I have.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. So girls aren't just grandmothers. My favorite girls, you know, of I'm just surrounded by girls, so.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Let's see what kind of wisdom you can get out of me.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, and they've made a positive impact on your life. I listened to an episode where you had your song just dedicated to your mom and grandma and just like the impact that they have had for you.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, because they are, you know, there was some of them. It was tough love, but it was enough to just the wisdom and the life lessons. And and like I said, you know, you need both parents and stuff like at a time when I was a teenager, you know, moved my dad and I needed a structure, you know, and that manhood so it's kind of know the balance is great.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Even though they weren't together I still have both of my parents and I highly recommend parents to be parents. There were them. They weren't my friend. They were my parents. Yeah. You know, and then they they just corrected me and scolded me when I need to be scolded. Then I kind of figured it out. Like, I don't like being scolded, so I'm just gonna listen.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, yeah.

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Matthew Krekeler
It's. It's tough lessons to learn, but it's good to understand that different dynamic. Like you said, having someone that's a parent that brings that structure, that brings that guidance, it's not all just like your best friend, that kind of thing.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. No, I need my parent to be parent. And the same with my girls. You know, I had, you know, when I was teenagers, my oldest is like, you know, they get to the teenager, like start feeling yourself and all that stuff. Like, I'm grown, I can't wait til I'm 18. I can do what I want to do.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I'm like, I can't wait to 18 either. So I'll be not responsible for you. But it's like, Look, I have a job to do. I'm the dad, you're the child. Let me do the dad. You do the job and everything's fine. We won't have any issues. I dad, you daughter? Yeah.

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Matthew Krekeler
So I. I want to go back to that moment. Seems like a long time now, I'm sure, but what was that moment like when you first found out you were going to be a dad and then that you were having a daughter? What was that like?

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Oh, I'm pretty much a realist because like when I when I live with my dad, he had some some second a second string of kids. So I was kind of like changing diapers at 15 and, you know, feeding them. And so I was already prepared for babies because it was like three or four.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. You already had the responsibility of all. Yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So it wasn't it wasn't like an overwhelming I mean it was a good feeling, but it was kind of nervous, like, okay, man, this is mine. I got to be like responsible for this whole human being, like, for at least 20 years. Can I do it? You know? And you know, my first wife, she, you know, she wanted some kids, like was married maybe like two years and stuff.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
She's like, I want some kids I wanted to have while I'm young. So we grew up together and it's like, okay, you sure? Because it's going to change everything forever. None of these dates and going out and having fun and no responsibility of kids and stuff and no babysitters. And like so we decided and we had the first little girl and I was in 91 and 1991 and a beautiful little kid.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I get to cut the umbilical cord and and I still have those years to day soon.

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Matthew Krekeler
It's great.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
But it was it was exciting. You know, I was happy. She was healthy and everything went well, mom, pregnancy and stuff. And then I think like two and a half years later, she wanted another one. It's like we prepare for that one and then boop, another girl. Popo Everything's fine, she's healthy. And now I have these two girls, so it was exciting.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I was like I said, I had two prior training, so it wasn't like, I don't know what to do and stuff, you know? I think I know, I know. I think I knew what to do more than my my first wife did because, you know, I had experience babies, you know, like all my high school use babies, but my dad new kids and stuff, well, they are grown now, but it's like, you know, I just had the just step up to the plate.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. I'll turn it back now to here.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. You have to just learn like there's we've talked about this before on my podcast, but you don't really get like a manual of how to do it. You just kind of have to learn on the job and and somehow we've managed, you know, decade after decade, generation after generation, like we've managed to. Our kids are fine and they grow up and they become fine adults.

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Matthew Krekeler
And you're like, Wow, I haven't in between. Like, I feel like I didn't even have any clue like how to start. But somehow we manage.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
They grow fast. Matthew So take a lot of pictures and videos. You know, back then we didn't have at least find recording objects and stuff. We had the Polaroids and the get to go get them developed. No, take a lot of it. They grow up fast.

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Matthew Krekeler
I feel like I have more. Yeah. I feel like I have more pictures of my kids from yesterday than my parents had of me. And like.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Like.

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Matthew Krekeler
Like like. Yep.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. But they grow fast, man. It's like. And then it's kind of, you know, when I grew up so quick, you kind of, like, missed the innocence. Little curly baby you can hold. And they depend on you and they trust you and stuff like at the mall to get tall and almost taller, you have to, like, get a hug them and grab my stuff.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I still like my legs, you know?

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Matthew Krekeler
Oh, for sure.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I love them stuff. Yeah.

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Matthew Krekeler
And when they're growing up, were they close as sisters yet? They're still close now.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yes, they were so close. They used to get on each other nerves like the younger one used to, I guess like when they started getting friends, separate friends had a burp. I had mudo.

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Matthew Krekeler
I know from.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
An impulse, but anyway like they're going like the teen years of pre-teens and they had separate friends and they were so used to growing up together and being like Buddy buddies and then they get separate friends and the younger ones probably used to get jealous and you know, just aggravating the older one. And I had to like sit them down like, hey, the rest of your life, when everything drops off, all you have is each other.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Get along, love each other, stop annoying each other You know it's okay to have separate friends and you know, you can be friends together or whatever, but you still going to be together forever as sisters? Nobody can take that away. So just learn to grow apart, but still, you know, love each other and accept each other and their friends and their ways and all that.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So and to get them to an age where they can understand, like, hey, stop irritating each other. Yeah, you know, it's okay for her to have different friends and all that. You can be they friends, do you know. So yeah that was a, that was a little issue. I had to step in and say, hey Rafa really love get along.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Not at 99, besties. You don't need to set a seat.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, it's so important to, like, work out those relationships and those differences and find a way to, like, just appreciate that relationship. Because, like you said, they'll be together. They'll always be sisters. And like, I'm really blessed that I'm close with my brother. I only had one brother I didn't have any sisters by, but I'm close with my brother now and I really appreciate that relationship when you're older because yeah, friends will come and go and hopefully you'll have friends that are kind of lifelong friends, but your siblings, you know, they're with you and you go through the same things together.

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Matthew Krekeler
So it's really great when you can kind of keep that really close.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, because I mean, I mean, they're your first best friends, you know, you grew up together and stuff like, okay, we started together. We knew each other before these so-called best friends or whatever. So yeah, let's work it out between us forever. We always have each other's back and you know, we love and protect each other and we don't damage each other or do anything wrong against each other and stuff like that.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. And it's so fun for.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
You to hope it works out that way.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, it's fun for me as a dad to see my daughters interact as sisters. And of course the younger one wants to do it. The older one is doing it for you right there. And of course, they can't always do the same things just naturally. Like my oldest goes to preschool and the second one isn't quite there yet, but she wants to go and do all the same things, so she kind of has that separate time while she is at her preschool.

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Matthew Krekeler
But they just love like as soon as she gets back from preschool, it's like.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Happy to see you.

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Matthew Krekeler
Oh, yeah. She's so excited.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
And when you've been all day, we miss you.

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Matthew Krekeler
And yeah, and then they have their play buddy again and they get to terrorize the house together and all that kind of stuff. But yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So you have a four year old was the other two ages?

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, my oldest, Kaylee, she's four and then I've got a two year old Nora and then a one year old Maggie.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
And you guys like the back, huh?

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, yeah. Like three and four years, basically.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Are you guys done? Are you kind of.

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Matthew Krekeler
That's a good question. We're content right now. I will say like three out of right now and a one year olds right now is is a lot I don't know. I won't speak like, you know, a couple of years from now. But yeah, we're right now we're kind of managing our house with just three and it's still a lot.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So there's enough busy.

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Matthew Krekeler
But it's fun. And yeah, we life completely changed for us like four years ago. Like once you have kids, everything's different. And like, like you said, you can't really go out on date nights the same way and everything kind of is revolved around like when they get up in the morning and then when they have to go to bed and like trying to plan stomach time, we still try to prioritize date night.

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Matthew Krekeler
It just looks different. So yeah, yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
But yeah, it's cool. It's a, it's a lovely experience and I don't have any regrets, you know.

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Matthew Krekeler
That's great. May I ask? Like, your daughters are now grown and now you even have grandkids and great grandkids. But yeah, I mean, I ask like just kind of where they're at now and like as they were growing up, what were your dreams for them? Like, what kind of things did you encourage them to do? And as a dad, how did you foster like those different desires that they had for like who they wanted to be when they were growing up in the kind of values that you wanted to instill in them?

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Well, like like I get from my parents to do unto others as you have them do unto you, you don't have to go out and hurt scheme or scam or like get over on people to make a life for yourself. Stay away from people that does that. Follow your dreams. Do what you feel that you want to do.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
You know you don't have to live what I desire for you to do. Just do do the right thing. Follow your passion, whatever that makes you happy. You know, right now they both work. They have their own place and stuff. One lives in Atlanta. I don't lose out in California with me. But, you know, she does her thing and she went to got her degrees at her will, you know.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So I didn't really like push them into the area. I want them to go. I'm like, no, fine. What you like to do, go do it, you know, do it. Because in the end you're not doing it for me. You're doing it for your life. You know, I already got my stuff set up the way I wanted to go.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So find your path and just do it well enough that you know, so you can survive. And I'm always here for that counsel. You know, they can bounce stuff for me to tell me, Hey, Dad, I heard this, I seen this. A look at this. And what do you think? What your thoughts on it. They always do that.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Send me stuff like what's your thoughts on it? Like, well, this is my take. So, you know, you've got to, you know, his his his a this his that's I find what works for you. Yeah, I always try to encourage them to use their brain. Don't, don't lean on my brain. Just you can pick my brain, but still it in the end it's your choice and then deal with the consequences, whatever.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
You know, the consequences are good and bad. So this is his I give him the spectrum. I find your your lane.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, I agree.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Everybody needs to find them. You know, it would work for me. Might not work for you, but they're doing it. They're doing well for themselves. You know, they self-sufficient. And like I say, I didn't want to create kids that was needy other than, you know, love and affection and, you know, just wisdom. Yeah. So, you know, and then, you know, my second wife, she's been her older being her 12 years my elder, she already had experience raising daughters.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So we use a lot of her wisdom she help guide and that's the second born his mom that they love dearly and you know it's like that that played a part in more than him and the women and, you know, positive people, too. So it's not just me. It's just a good it helped me to know. Can't take that away.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
I got to give her flowers on that one.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, that's so nice. Like, yeah, I know not everyone has that same situation where you have a supportive partner, but I. I'm very blessed that my wife and I are in this together and we have the same values and we're raising our kids together and when you have that help me, like when you're raising kids, it's, it's just so good for both people and and for the kids.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. Yeah. And just, you know, it just it shows the kids function and, you know, union is supposed to work, too.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. And my wife and I will have our differences, and there'll be things that we don't agree on and always. But it's also important to like the way that we fight it. Sometimes it's like you have to come at it with respect. And it's like we're still together. Like, I still love you, even if we don't always agree.

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Matthew Krekeler
And it's important for our kids to see that too. That like, I can admit that I'm wrong. My wife's never wrong. But but if sometimes she will say that I'm right. But yeah, we can, we can disagree on that kind of stuff. But the way that like we also say we're sorry and we make up and it's important for our kids to see that too, that it's like no one's perfect and right and to try to role model that for our kids and say like, Yeah, we're all working on this together.

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Matthew Krekeler
And then when they have disagreements with their siblings or they both want something like they can kind of work through it to that it's like, yeah, we're all working through that together and we all need to like kind of have the other person in mind and resolve those things as best we can.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. So on that conflict, was it conflict resolution?

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Matthew Krekeler
Exactly.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. Yeah. Argue, argue the issue. Don't tear down the person.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Nobody get hurts. We just are an issue and we don't hate each other. We just don't like the. Oh, I guess the, the, the thoughts of the issue.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, exactly. Now, is there something like what was the hardest lesson that you had to learn thinking back as a dad? Was there something that like just was a pivotal shift for you.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
Know, I mean, teen years, you know, just looking at boys and doing all kind of crazy stuff where you don't see them, you know, wouldn't have any friends or stuffy. He here's hoping they didn't get in trouble or get pregnant or, you know, just do stuff like that where, you know, kind of it ruins their life or change your life.

00:21:46:03 - 00:22:05:05
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So we got lucky on that one that kids kind of, you know, they did the little stuff, didn't get no major trauma or not, no pregnancies, no drug addictions and stuff. So yeah, like I say, I'm blessed, man. And then they had, you know, like my my stepdaughter, they were already adults when I got with my new wife.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So they had good examples of older sisters that they can see that was decent, you know. So, you know, it's like, I guess the blended family, it came together so well and everybody benefited from us connecting.

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Matthew Krekeler
Yeah.

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Nathaniel Noble Jr
So yeah, I mean, I didn't really have any no big problems. I didn't, you know, because I'm always talking to them, you know, when they do run into little issues or attitudes or whatever, I'm right there. Even if I was on the road on my A I'm always trying to get in a here like, hey, you got to use your head.

00:22:38:12 - 00:23:13:15
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. Not your feelings and knowledge of what your friend's doing and the popular stuff. Know you're responsible for your actions, not your friend. My friend? No. Hey, if everybody go jump off a bridge and kill yourself, you're going to follow them. Okay? You got to use this nugget. You know, lead don't follow. So, yeah, you know, and then it's the funny thing is like you may think the key is not listening to you, you know, even repeating all these nuggets and all these wisdoms and all these, you know, whatever good things you want to keep within them, just keep playing it over and over two years and then they come back to you later and

00:23:13:15 - 00:23:28:14
Nathaniel Noble Jr
like they're man, I can see what you mean. And no, now I see what you was telling me back then. It makes sense now as I'm an adult and it's like, I'm glad you were there for us. You know, they always tell me like, man is no one. Like, you know, you got the best, you know, best dad ever.

00:23:28:14 - 00:23:49:21
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So I was like, you know, all that stuff paid off. But you keep I mean, that's that's what happened to me and my grandmother. And it just kept instill all in wisdoms and keep telling me the the good stuff. And this pounded it in and, you know, like my grandma, my maternal grandma, good mama, she used to always say, hey, when I'm dead and gone, my words are going to be ringing in your ears.

00:23:50:23 - 00:24:20:01
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So you're like, She's my grandma. She passed in 2015, but still all of my siblings and stuff. They still say, Yeah, you remember we good? We used to say, oh, you don't remember, you hear? You hear her words? My grandma used to always say so I took the same value system in this implant and I do it with any youngster in my pet, you know, this implant, these, these good, positive things, you know, because it's life skills, it's life lessons, life troops.

00:24:20:01 - 00:24:25:04
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And if you if you listen to them, they will help you will get you so many landmines life.

00:24:26:12 - 00:24:31:17
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, yeah. You may not think it's making an impact. You're like, Yeah, they're not changing their attitude.

00:24:31:17 - 00:24:36:16
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And knowing like you know, when you always say that I'm like this and.

00:24:37:10 - 00:24:59:05
Matthew Krekeler
Eventually it will catch up over the we remembering those things and hopefully it will help guide a and and I try to like take when I hear something or like I see social media posts with like a quote that inspires me. I try to like write that down, but okay, that's cool. Like, yeah, I appreciate that and try to think on it.

00:24:59:05 - 00:25:18:01
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, that's why, that's why I like my podcast because I let people share their story, how they get the gifts and talents and then before to show off is like this is the part of the show where I have my guest give these positive life nuggets of skills or whatever, and then everybody just throw up their jewels, you know, just to help the listener, because I want everybody to win.

00:25:18:01 - 00:25:23:15
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I want to give the show and the listener to benefit from that, that segment.

00:25:24:19 - 00:25:32:18
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. And you've got so many episodes now, so I think it's fun looking back on them. You kind of collected all of these gems. Oh yeah, from all these different people.

00:25:33:11 - 00:25:48:22
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I mean, yeah, we all need each other. And then if I can pass some, some positivity around because the world is, you know, it can be a dark place if you don't have any positivity, you know? No, I know that energy around you. So I want to be a light. I want to be a beacon of good going out in the world.

00:25:49:15 - 00:26:00:05
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And you know, when when my physical pass, I'm still here, you know, saying so it's like I'm building my legacy through these podcasts, the music and, you know, the youth, wherever except the gyms.

00:26:01:09 - 00:26:01:17
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah.

00:26:02:02 - 00:26:04:18
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. So that's how I look at it. It's a mission to me.

00:26:06:20 - 00:26:10:05
Nathaniel Noble Jr
It's not just a fad, you know?

00:26:10:05 - 00:26:25:09
Matthew Krekeler
And then, yeah, thinking back again, I wanted to ask, is there a particular moment or like a funny story or like a really sweet story that sticks out to you that you still remember?

00:26:25:09 - 00:26:49:03
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Uh, let me see. It was a point. It was a one point where, like I say, when I was breaking with my first wife, that was a that was a traumatic moment for me. And my kids were young, like two in four. So I don't I don't know, they they actually when I talk about it, then I remember that segment, which is good, you know, because I was like, I was broken, I was damaged.

00:26:49:03 - 00:27:06:01
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I was at my lowest in life. So but I still had the, you know, level on them and be there for them and stuff and not show all that pain and suffering to them. But like, I'm glad they don't remember that because it didn't impact them negatively like most break ups and stuff like because yeah.

00:27:06:08 - 00:27:09:04
Matthew Krekeler
It's so difficult on a family going through that. Yeah.

00:27:09:22 - 00:27:33:07
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. I guess me and the ex we suffered our own way, but I guess we didn't show it to them, which is good because they don't get to experience that horror. And then I met my new wife and and, you know, we had to I had to blend and, you know, get everything together and had the young grandkids and the over stepdaughters and stepson and they were fine.

00:27:33:07 - 00:27:54:02
Nathaniel Noble Jr
It just the transition was a growing period for like all of us. But somehow we came through it and this like sweet moment is we came through it and, you know, they got new sisters, that brother, the new nieces and nephews. And so everybody came together. So that's one of the sweetest moments. It all worked.

00:27:54:15 - 00:28:07:23
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, that's nice to hear that they were able to come together. And what are holidays like for you? Like at Christmas time and stuff like when you have your blended family, do you all get together as a big family?

00:28:08:00 - 00:28:25:22
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, on Christmas we have we have Christmas at our house every year. So everybody come through and we we eat, they play games and win prizes and stuff. And it just so you know, this the moment they get together and then, you know, the birthdays and different events, the kids have, we, you know, we all try to make it to the you know, because my wife she big on family.

00:28:25:22 - 00:28:39:06
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So she always try to like have stuff where everybody can come together because everybody had the separate lives and stuff and, you know, you get to come back together so we can, like fellowship and, you know, laugh, take pictures and all that stuff, you know, go out. And it's.

00:28:39:06 - 00:28:40:03
Matthew Krekeler
So fun to have.

00:28:40:03 - 00:28:40:16
Nathaniel Noble Jr
People get.

00:28:40:16 - 00:28:52:10
Matthew Krekeler
Together and yeah, and the step siblings and stuff to be together and support each other. And yeah, you're like, you're just embracing your growing family and yeah. And those relationships like, yeah.

00:28:52:18 - 00:29:15:06
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And then as the kids grow up and get their little mini started and stuff, so, you know, you got to do all these dynamics of trying to, you know, navigate everybody to one location and stuff. And they got to split time between our family, this family that we all together here or whatever. So it works out. And then we all got like a group text where we send out information.

00:29:15:06 - 00:29:25:15
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I see happy birthday to everybody. And so, you know, we communicate, we keep in touch with any Vince coming up, we send it to the group text of the family and everybody know what's happening. So we stay communicating like that.

00:29:26:06 - 00:29:30:20
Matthew Krekeler
That's good. Yeah. Family stuff is just so good to have and so important.

00:29:31:01 - 00:29:32:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And especially it's really in time.

00:29:32:16 - 00:29:36:18
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. Good blessing to to be able to maintain that closeness.

00:29:38:06 - 00:30:02:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. But oh yeah. I mean, like I say, like I say my wife Dorothy, she's, she's a jewel because she's like she keeps a lot of stuff together in the background and I have to work as hard, you know? I mean, she's my backbone and I don't have to work as hard because we we partners in this thing and we work together like on the whole situation.

00:30:02:10 - 00:30:10:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So it helps to have a good part in this kind of like a team player, not a team player, you know.

00:30:12:00 - 00:30:12:11
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah.

00:30:13:08 - 00:30:19:13
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So yeah, I get the shine because I got some backbones behind me that's good.

00:30:20:14 - 00:30:22:07
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. It seems like you're very blessed.

00:30:22:23 - 00:30:26:16
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So complete.

00:30:26:16 - 00:31:01:04
Matthew Krekeler
So, yeah, we're coming up. Kind of. Yeah, final kind of minutes of the interview. But I wanted to give you just an opportunity. Yeah. Any wisdom advice you want to share for dads out there? Either new dads or dads, you know, going to become grandad's great granddads even. But yeah. Just from your perspective. Yeah, anything that you think would be helpful, your nuggets of wisdom for people.

00:31:02:00 - 00:31:23:07
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And let me mention this. You know, you know, sometimes you got to like spank your kid or whatever stuff. I don't think we'll have to do anything between the weapons and because I'm always talking silly brain, like, I need you to listen. I'm trying to teach you something. So and I guess the dad voice like, hey, you kind of, you know, they kind of being girls.

00:31:23:07 - 00:31:45:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
They kind of like. So I didn't really have the, you know, sometimes you got to spank, you know, every now and then I didn't have that many times. I'm kind of upset because I have my spankings and stuff and we got all kinds of stuff back in the day that was hard hitting and doing stuff. I'm like, So I didn't get that privilege to start using that hammer Do they listen?

00:31:46:10 - 00:32:11:13
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And so so they vice the dad love your kids in spite of you. You know, that's your baby's if you're in a divorce or a breakup situation. I always, like, show your kid love and and just give them hugs and tell them important is special. And whatever issue, if you're going through stuff, it's not their fault. And Matthew was the middle kid.

00:32:11:13 - 00:32:28:14
Nathaniel Noble Jr
The middle kids somehow middle class with them, issues like they're not lovable, they're not needed or stuff. So make sure you squeeze on the middle kid and let them know that, hey, you're just as important as the first one in the say, the third one. So and no, this for sure. There are a lot of them are just Beta Rock.

00:32:29:06 - 00:32:50:08
Nathaniel Noble Jr
You might not know it all, but you can learn it and you can tell them they don't know that as I look it up. Well, we can look it up together and stuff. So just just be a steady, you know, just a steady rock for them and someone who can depend on you don't have to be perfect. Just be the dad.

00:32:50:08 - 00:33:16:21
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Hugs are important. I love you's. Tell them you love them. I mean, simple is like, just. Just go out on dates with them. I don't know. Listen to them sometimes. Now they don't need to answer. They just want you to do alone at the hugs and love, man.

00:33:18:10 - 00:34:01:11
Matthew Krekeler
Thank you. Yeah, that's such good advice. Like, I, I love each of my kids, like, so, so much, but also, like, individually for each person that they are. And and I appreciate too, like, my, my middle is just so close to my heart too. But yeah, each one of them, it's amazing. But like, I've just feel so blessed to be at the stage where I am now when they're so young still to just watch them like at each new stage as they grow up and just being able to foster that love on them and just be in awe as, as they're growing up and and seeing all that they're doing.

00:34:01:11 - 00:34:12:00
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Then, you know, you just love them. And what did they know to the same? So just love them and tell them. You got to tell them.

00:34:12:00 - 00:34:28:11
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, that's so important. Yeah, I love it. Like every morning now they're like they run into our room and they like want hugs and stuff like that. And I love that they're still at that age where they're like, I get home and they still run to me for hugs.

00:34:29:06 - 00:34:35:00
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, but you want that to continue adulthood too. Every time you see them, you hug them, say, Hey, how you doing, baby?

00:34:35:00 - 00:34:35:11
Matthew Krekeler
Oh, yeah.

00:34:35:11 - 00:34:45:01
Nathaniel Noble Jr
For you, Ben. And then, you know, when they leave, I love you after the phone call. I love your text. Me be safe. Yeah. Just always just let them know.

00:34:46:03 - 00:35:05:12
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, that never goes away. Like, even, like, as you get older, like, I remember, like, my grandpa, like my mom's now older. She's an adult. It's just like she's been on her own for decades. But then my grandpa still, like, be like, oh, yeah. Where you at? Like, make sure you call when you get home and like, we'll make sure you're safe and.

00:35:06:01 - 00:35:06:11
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, that's.

00:35:07:05 - 00:35:08:14
Matthew Krekeler
Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:35:08:16 - 00:35:29:16
Nathaniel Noble Jr
They always care for you. Always care for me, you know, thinking about me, praying for them and just. Yeah, let them know you're available. I'm here. We know when that can't be good. Or we might not be together physically or something. You're in a different place, but I'm always reachable. Be reachable? Yeah. Regardless of the situations.

00:35:29:16 - 00:35:51:07
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, the circuit. And then before I get to my final question, I want to do a little segment called I Just Call This Proud Dad moment, but I want to give you an opportunity to just do a shout out for anything that you wanted to share, that you're proud of for your daughters. Yeah.

00:35:52:04 - 00:35:55:17
Nathaniel Noble Jr
This mountain dog here is one. Oh, lady.

00:35:56:06 - 00:35:56:23
Matthew Krekeler
She's so cute.

00:35:57:13 - 00:36:08:05
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, she needed a haircut as we were trying to keep her from, like, whining. She's trying to get up on a chair. What her back needs is not a struggle. Okay, there we go. Now, where were you?

00:36:09:19 - 00:36:15:17
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, anything you wanted to share that you're proud of in your daughter's?

00:36:15:17 - 00:36:36:21
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, I'm proud that my daughters love me. Proud of me. They speak highly of me. I mean the world to me. And it's like I really do nothing special. I just was a dad, you know? I was just a just trying to guide them and love them and but they think the world of me. So that's a good feeling, you know, because most kids, they grow up and they, you know, they they don't like their parents.

00:36:36:21 - 00:36:54:13
Nathaniel Noble Jr
They don't speak to them. They take their kids and they go away. But my, my, my girls actually like who I am as the dad. And that's why I'm proudest moment, like, okay, I was never perfect. But, you know, like I say, I loved them enough and guided them and then that rock for them and they really appreciate it.

00:36:54:13 - 00:37:14:19
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Like on my birthdays or Fathers Day, they they do stuff on the social media saying that proud dad and my dad is no one like him and all that stuff. So that's a good feeling then. I'm still there for them, you know, it's my babies and them, my step girls, you know, anybody, all these kids around me, it's like I'm there, you know, they need me.

00:37:14:19 - 00:37:38:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
So I'm. I'm, I'm the father here. You get out here and I try to give good advice and, you know, it comes back to you. So, Dad, just just keep don't want the right thing, man. And, you know, don't feel like you're not worthy. You are. They're watching you. I'm telling you, the impact my dad had on me and stuff, it's like, just be just be you and love your kids.

00:37:39:17 - 00:37:48:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
It should come back to you. Yeah, that's great. But it it don't take a lot. Just. Just love your kids, man, and just do the right thing by them.

00:37:49:18 - 00:37:52:09
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. Just being there, I think, is so important. Like.

00:37:52:10 - 00:38:09:02
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah, and then reachable and available, you know, you know, you don't have to bind with money and gifts and shopping and all this stuff because I did not do that with my kids. When I gave them some, they surprised like, wow, oh my God. I try to yeah, I'm giving them stuff that's going to make them survive. You know, you give them 20 hours, they go spend at his then.

00:38:09:05 - 00:38:27:09
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Now let me show you how to make the $20 and keep $20. And let me let me tell you some life skills that's going to, like get you to this jungle. So that's that's what the value is that this plant in these jewels in them and the life wisdom and stuff like that, it lasts and it last them forever.

00:38:29:00 - 00:38:50:19
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. And then in my final question, I want to give you an opportunity to pretend like your daughters may listen to this in the future and just pretend like I'm not here and just speak directly to your daughters. Just a special message from their dad. Anything you want to say.

00:38:51:16 - 00:39:34:00
Nathaniel Noble Jr
To all of my baby girls just know that I love you and I'm proud of you guys. And I'm here. If you ever need me for advice or a hug or just an ear to listen, I'm here. You know how to reach me. I'm always accessible, and I just. I'm just trying to be what you need as a father figure, you know, even though I may fall short in some areas, but I'm doing the best, I can to be a great example and show you that, you know, I'm here for you, love you guys and that just have a great together.

00:39:34:00 - 00:39:35:07
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I love what I have to say, man.

00:39:35:18 - 00:39:38:10
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, it just seems perfect. Yeah.

00:39:38:10 - 00:39:58:18
Nathaniel Noble Jr
When when they come to me with this situation, I'm just there and trying to be what need to be for those moments. Yeah, I don't. I don't like some parents overpowering you. They want to be all part of their life and guide. I mean, don't do this. Don't let. No, no, no, no, no. Go live your life. Run into obstacle.

00:39:58:18 - 00:40:02:21
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Give me a call and bounce it off me stuff. I'm just give you my opinion. You keep moving.

00:40:03:21 - 00:40:04:05
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah.

00:40:04:19 - 00:40:16:13
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Yeah. So I'm not here to run your life. I'm on the sideline. Brewton Go, go, go. I'm confident a cheerleader.

00:40:16:13 - 00:40:27:02
Matthew Krekeler
Go. It's great. I love your energy and your enthusiasm. Like, it's. It's so awesome to see other dads just. They're, like, super excited, super energetic about being dads and rooting for their kids.

00:40:27:20 - 00:40:49:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Oh, yeah, yeah. I take all my positive stuff from my, you know, my mom, grandma, all the people, mentors and stuff and then infused with me. Wow. All the negative stuff. They can keep all this stuff. Yeah. In a good I mean mentioned my goods and bang they come up with great the great Nate.

00:40:50:07 - 00:41:05:20
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah well Nate Nathan. Great thank you so much for being on the show it's awesome to have you as part of Girl Dat Nation and thanks for sharing your wisdom. I want to give you an opportunity once again to, share. Where can people find you?

00:41:06:20 - 00:41:34:10
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Oh man, they can find me a mr. Noble podcast dot com. They can find you get Nate Smoove on YouTube some of the E what else I have a and big Kate with Nate dot com. If they want to travel they can hit me up at join Nate now if they want some live good and I'm all over and you can find my podcast on any podcast outlet so look me up check me out.

00:41:34:10 - 00:41:36:23
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I'm just me. I am who I am.

00:41:38:00 - 00:41:40:16
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah. And that's the Nathaniel Noble Jr podcast.

00:41:41:05 - 00:41:41:17
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Oh yeah.

00:41:41:17 - 00:41:45:17
Matthew Krekeler
For people on all the podcast platforms. But yeah, thank you so much.

00:41:46:14 - 00:41:49:18
Nathaniel Noble Jr
Hey, thanks for the invite, Matt. It's been a while, but he was waiting.

00:41:51:05 - 00:42:09:16
Matthew Krekeler
Yeah, I'm so sorry. I like. I get a bunch of e-mails all the time, and yet life with three kids right now is just crazy. But it was a pleasure having you on the show. I really appreciate your wisdom and for everyone listening on Drill Dad Nation, thank you for joining me. It's been awesome. I love doing this.

00:42:10:06 - 00:42:37:14
Matthew Krekeler
Please continue to support the show. Please share the show. You can also find me on social media at Girl Dad Nation and you can email me directly at Girl Dad Nation podcast at gmail.com and until next time go be a dad guy.

00:42:38:22 - 00:42:57:08
Nathaniel Noble Jr
This is a song I wrote talking to my daughters to leave them some some fatherly wisdom and advice, love and concern, and just to give them a musical hug, the saying, Hey, I'm here and it's called Daddy's Talk by Nate Smoove.

00:42:57:08 - 00:43:24:21
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And it's dedicated to my two daughters. They're just trying to give you advice on life, trying to bring you up the way of Christ right now you have a wonderful life, etc.. So now with that way before the day you were born, wondering if you would be my girl and my son. It didn't manipulate he or she. I just prayed to God that you be healthy.

00:43:25:04 - 00:43:53:11
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I thank God because I was proud to see that I was going to be your little girl's daddy. You best believe going to do my best because raising you right is going to be my test. I listen to my dad talk to you. Steady. Come. Because this is coming from the heart on the strength of my heart. Now listen to my daddy and listen to your dad on this one can make this my still will make you smile.

00:43:54:20 - 00:44:11:22
Nathaniel Noble Jr
My job is simple, but this show ain't easy from regular duty to this real life She raised you right to me. It's a priority. And I don't care what these people think of me. Talking about kids have rights, too. That's right. You have the right to do what I say do. I won't do timeouts because I believe in discipline.

00:44:12:02 - 00:44:29:03
Nathaniel Noble Jr
And if you don't listen, I'm whipping you again. I'm raising you too often with tough love the same stuff that worked for me when I was young. Blood. My job is to raise you the way God intended, and I don't care if the world gets offended. I'm not raising you to be a young who to smoke weed and play hooky from school.

00:44:29:09 - 00:44:49:12
Nathaniel Noble Jr
You best believe I want spend this right now If you understand me, let me see your head Now listen to my daddy talk all the court and listen to your daddy's talk. Because this is coming from the heart. This come straight from my heart. Now listen to my daddy talk. You have to listen to your daddy's tone, is what I'm saying.

00:44:49:12 - 00:44:51:13
Nathaniel Noble Jr
I'm going to make you so make sure.

00:44:51:16 - 00:45:00:17
Nathaniel Noble Jr
All my future.